“The deepest pain I ever felt was denying my own feelings to make everyone else comfortable” – Nicole Lyons
So often as women we put themselves last, after watching our mothers slave away for the family and learn over time through societies conditioning that it’s better to be quiet then it is to raise your voice
The long term repercussions of stifling your emotions and not being heard can be huge. Anger, resentment, and feeling inadequate or unimportant are all emotions that increase cortisol (stress hormones) and can erode away at your self-esteem over time. Eventually you find yourself in situation after situation feeling just as powerless as the last .
Know that your voice matters. Everyone’s voice matters. Women, men, children, adults, elderly, all important. We all have individual value to share. Stifling yourself or playing it small so that others don’t respond poorly may will give ‘haters’ a momentary win, but for you in the long run it’s a massive loss .
If you find yourself keeping quiet when you want to speak, saying yes when you want to say no, and denying yourself of healthy emotional expression in order to keep someone else happy, then maybe it’s time to start expressing yourself .
I learned this one the hard way and as much as it was anxiety-provoking the first few times, the long term consequences have been so liberating